Well, not literally - most kids are *heavy*, and you'd hate to mar the finish of your favorite Blast-o-matic if you dropped it, right?
Daniel in Brookline e-mailed me with a simply excellent set of questions that I thought might be applicable to many folks. He writes:
Hi Jay,
As a concealed-carrier and a father, are there times at home when you put away the gun for safety's sake?
(I'm not carrying right now -- my wife is still averse to me keeping my guns at home. I'll keep working on that. In the meantime, I've adjusted my wardrobe, bought a Dragon Leatherworks holster and a blue gun, and from time to time I carry it concealed at home; call it practice. Tonight I became uncomfortable with it when I was tucking the boys into bed; they're toddlers, and they were crawling all over me. Yes, Dennis is no slouch; yes, the holster covers the entire trigger guard; and yes, chances are that neither of my boys are yet strong enough to pull a gun out of the holster, to say nothing of pulling a Massachusetts trigger. I nonetheless had nightmare visions of them finding it, of it being not a blue gun but my Beretta, and having to deal with my toddler holding a gun.)
Am I being ridiculous here? Is the answer simply that, while tucking the boys in, I'd (a) make sure it's cocked and locked (or a revolver with an empty chamber), (b) move it to the small of my back, and (c) forget about it?
I'm also thinking of a relative who frequently comes to visit. She carries an S&W .38 snubby, all chambers loaded, tucked into her waistband (no holster). They boys don't generally crawl all over her, and I believe she carries at 4 o'clock or thereabouts, but still...
I welcome your advice. I honestly don't know if I'm right to be concerned. (I also wonder at what age I can begin educating the boys about guns. One is three, the other is one and a half.)
Wow. Where to begin?
First off, no, you are not being ridiculous at all. Your kids are your most prized possession; never make any excuses for looking out for them in all possible ways. My kids were the reason I got back into shooting and carrying a firearm - it dawned on me that I was the first line of defense for them, and that I should have the best tools for that job. If I never have to draw my firearm I will go to my grave a happy man; however, I could not live with myself if something happened to my kids and my actions could have prevented it.
Secondly, my dirty little secret is that I'm not always carrying a gun in my house. The entry is pretty secure; anyone coming in through the front door is either going to be slowed down enough for me to make it to a safe or they're coming in so hard and fast that having a .38 in my pocket ain't gonna help much. That said, there's a lot of times where I'll come home from errands or something and have my CCW piece on my belt. The kids are at the point where they'll hug me and not even notice the holster.
Education is the key; I recommended the NRA's Eddie Eagle program for at least the three year old. It's never too early to start teaching kids gun safety, and even if you hate guns with every fiber of your being and won't let your kids have even a squirt gun, you can't watch them 24/7/365. Give them the knowledge to be safe rather than try to shelter them from things. End sermon. Make sure they know the Four Rules. Make sure they understand that daddy's guns are not toys.
Teach them, like my dad taught me as a wee sprog, that daddy's guns are not forbidden fruit but a tool that a grown-up needs to help them with in order to be safe - that is, if they want to look at a gun, use it as a learning experience. Show them how to safely handle a firearm, checking to make sure it's unloaded, keeping their finger off the trigger, the gun pointed in a safe direction. Heck, letting them dry fire it is a great idea - you'll know immediately if they are capable of pulling the trigger should the worst happen.
That said, a quick and easy suggestion I had was to get a pair of "tactical" pants like the 5.11 Covert Tactical that have a zippered inside pocket. LCP/P3AT/J-frame etc. in a good pocket holster zipped inside the pants is not going to fall out under any circumstance. And there's always the option of tossing the gun in the safe before playing with the kids - that's usually what I do. Heck, TheBoy is getting close to my size, and when he wants to wrestle, he's playing for keeps now... ;)
As for the relative, well, my first thought was, "wow, you know Plaxico's sister!" Since he knows this person and has the best assessment of her situation awareness as well as his kids' level of activity, it's his call - personally, I'd tell her to get a holster just because Mexican carry is the dumbest way to carry a firearm possible, and it's only a matter of time before she shoots herself in the leg... If it's one of those Clipdraw deals, that's a little better, but still best to keep the kids away if there's any doubt.
So, any other thoughts/ideas/suggestions?That is all.