I mentioned our Cub Scout overnight earlier this week. I just got an e-mail from one of the Den leaders. Apparently, there was more than just pre-teen boy mischief going on after I left - rumors abound of parents who were getting drunk, using BB guns without permission, and even marijuana use.
Words cannot begin to express how angry, betrayed, and outright sick to my stomach I am right now.
Parents are, rightfully, questioning how this could happen. Stories are circulating in the school, and with each telling the behavior gets more and more outrageous. We're being told that we're being reported to the District Council. That parents are considering pulling their boys out of the Pack.
I wasn't there for the overnight part - my son and I left after the big bonfire and all marshmallows were roasted. I can't verify or deny the rumors. All I can say is that I personally didn't witness any drug or alcohol use. We have confirmed that the BB guns were locked in the Pack Committee chairman's car, so I think that's a dead-end there.
We are going to have to draft a "Rules of Conduct" for the "Adult Partners" (That's how BSA refers to the grown-up that must accompany a Cub Scout). I cannot begin to stress how sad, hurt, and pissed off I am that we have to do this. That we have to tell ADULTS that they shouldn't CONSUME AN ILLEGAL SUBSTANCE in the presence of 7-11 year old boys. That we need to remind them that alcohol is strictly prohibited. That we need to send off a notice telling our Scouts' parents and caregivers to ACT LIKE RESPONSIBLE FUCKING ADULTS.
Forgive me, folks. I'm taking this a little personally here. The other leaders and I invested a lot of time in this overnight - this is the first we've done an overnight - and to hear rumors of inappropriate behavior and how it's souring folks on Scouting, well... Needless to say, my already-low impression of my fellow man has dropped several notches lower.
I don't know what to say. I'll continue to do it as long as they'll have me and my son wants to stay in Scouts. But I'm going to be looking over my shoulder from now on.