Monday, February 13, 2012

Choices...

We all have our choices to make, and living with the choices we make is one of the hallmarks of reaching adulthood. Like the choice I made yesterday: I had planned on going to the range once the Mrs. got home; I loaded up magazines, gathered up targets, prepped the range bag; I was all set. Even though it was 15 degrees outside, I was prepared with layers and everything - besides, I reasoned, I'll most likely have the range to myself.

And then, after I loaded my box of targets into the truck (but before I'd brought out the range bag), my son comes up to me: "Hey dad, wanna toss the football around?"

Full stop. Target box out of the truck. Range bag back in the safe. "Sure thing pal".

He's 11. We're already seeing signs of dumb ol' dad not being good enough; hearing "Dad! You're embarrassing me" (my stock response to this one is always "Good! That means I'm doing my job right"); he's trying to figure out his place in the pack; how he and his old man relate; etc. The moments where we do connect are getting more scarce (though they're still there, thank goodness); so I take every opportunity to interact with my son on other-than-disciplinarian levels.

We spent over an hour in the frigid, windy weather tossing a football back and forth (for the record, our best effort was 23 consecutive catches-and-throws; it's important to my son - and all young men, I would surmise - to continually be striving to beat one's record). I learned that my son can throw a football much better than I can (on its face that's not saying much - I suck at throwing a football - but he's got a nice tight spiral) but I can catch a football better; I also learned that when we are not fighting the age-old battle for alpha wolf position, we relate pretty well.

It's funny how things can change; I had planned on being outside in the cold for a period of time yesterday, and I accomplished that objective. While I didn't get to shoot the guns I'm reviewing, nor practice any defensive shooting, I got to spend some time with my son doing something he enjoys. While it's not my thing (I'd have rather shot baskets with him), I know it's important to him so I made time for it - I'm the dad, that's what I do. My career as a competitive shooter will just have to wait until after football season.

Was it better than going to the range? You betcha...

That is all.

13 comments:

Robb Allen said...

I have two girls. I am well versed in playing Barbies.

Dean Carder said...

Jay Enjoy it while you can. I used to doe everything with my son. Tha is until he turned 13. then I was stupid, lazy and ignorant. Iw as in my 30's with a high dose of testosterone an he had more than his share of hormones and testoterones. Needless to say our relation ship went to nil. We have a great relationship now that I'm nearing 50 and he's in his 20's. Best wishes to you and your young man.

Dave H said...

You may not have practiced defensive shooting, but what you did will probably have a bigger payoff in terms of the safety of not just your son, but of his future wife and children.

Coop said...

You made the right call... the range, for the most part, will always be there. Quality Time spent with your son is irreplaceable.

ParaPacem said...

Got the priorities right; a lesson that takes some of us a lifetime to figure out. Well done.

Ancient Woodsman said...

Yeah Dad!!

"...my son can throw a football much better than I can (on its face that's not saying much - I suck at throwing a football - but he's got a nice tight spiral) but I can catch a football better;" Same here. Mine's six and he throws better than Dad.

Excellent way to spend the afternoon. What Dave H said above is very, very true. Kudos.

Borepatch said...

Amen, my friend. Amen.

Robert said...

Good for you! Will you be my dad? (btw, I'm older than you, but I'll overlook that).

Robert McDonald said...

No one can argue with your choice.

Phillip said...

You chose... wisely.

http://www-scf.usc.edu/~ryanbruc/opt2.html

God, Gals, Guns, Grub said...

Your group was tight and on-target... even if you didn't get to the range...

Dann in Ohio

Anonymous said...

I would have made a counter offer, and my son and I would have gone to the range.

We shot a lot together when my sons were home. Also played ball but I think we all remember the range better and more often.

mikee said...

There will come a year when he is almost as tall as you one month, and suddenly realizes he is TALLER than you the next month. Hilarity will ensue. Enjoy.